The end of the road…


It’s been a while, and a lot has happened in the past month. So sit back and let me tell you what’s happened.

About 7 weeks ago, we had a call from the hospital asking us to go in to see a consultant. Nothing to worry about, we just need to go in. So we did, and boy did we get a surprise. It turns out that a new antibody has appeared in my wife’s blood, and it’s high, very high, meaning the baby is at greater risk now. This means that we are now having to have our baby early, at 37 weeks by an induction, unless anything changes, and then we will be having it earlier.

Awesome. More stress and worry, but as long as the baby is fine, it doesn’t matter. So, every week we have been going to the hospital, having scans to check for anaemia, and every week we get told if we are good for another week. It’s like a waiting game, or a really stressful reality TV program. It hasn’t been particularly fun.

It hasn’t been a particularly easy pregnancy for my wife, and I think she has been truly incredible with it all. It goes to show just how amazing she is, when faced with all this with how calm and collected she has been. However, it turns out that God, or whatever is out there, wanted to test us more. A lot more!

I have also been made redundant three weeks ago, from a job that I absolutely loved. The company that I worked for, was forced into administration due to us losing the suppliers. Yet another high street UK business has closed down and 1000s of people have been made redundant. All of my work friends, the majority of which I will definitely see again and keep in touch with have been truly amazing and supportive, and I know will go on to bigger and better things. So now, I’m having to apply for jobs, and go to interviews, some have even had a 4th round!!! What’s that all about? Doing all this, whilst we are in and out of hospital, as my wife’s pregnancy has taken its toll. We have had a dry run in hospital for 3 days with a suspected blood clot on her lung, but all was well and we came back home.

Did I also forget to mention, that my wife also worked for the very same company that I did. Yep! She has been made redundant too, the very same day. All that enhanced maternity pay… Gone! My two weeks paid paternity… gone! The annual leave I had booked off in December… You guessed it, gone!

So I’m now on JSA, and my wife is getting statutory maternity pay. It’s better than a kick in the teeth, and I’m waiting to hear back from a few interviews, so I’m confident things will get better. They have to, don’t they?

So there you have it, the last 7 weeks in a nutshell. By my watch, I make it quarter past twelve at night, and I’m lying in bed, unable to sleep. I wonder why that might be.

Perhaps it’s the cup of coffee I had a couple of hours ago, or perhaps it’s because in 9 hours we’re going to hospital, and when I leave, I’m going to be a dad.

I seriously don’t know how she is snoring her head off next to me, although I think she is going to need all the sleep she can get.

I’ll see you all soon on the other side, through tired eyes and hopefully employed ones.