Flat Pack… Never again!!

7 Boxes!!!!

7 Boxes!!!!

So, we are now down to 13 weeks til the arrival of our bundle of joy. 13 weeks til I feel like I am back in the Army and going through sleep deprivation exercises. I absolutely cannot wait!

First though, the house needs to be prepared. Yet another thing that I didn’t even think about. Yet more expenses, and more things to do. So, a week of my annual leave has been used, and we have one week to do all the jobs that’s necessary to ensure we are as prepared as we can be.

Apparently, we need a new fireplace installing, “it will give us more room for the pram and stuff”. OK, I can get on board with that, but this also means that the walls need a different colour to ensure it looks right. Now the skirting boards will need glossing as well, it wouldn’t look right otherwise would it?

That’s just the front room as well, we also need a bath installing. I’m really excited about this one, I cannot wait to be able to play with the little one in the bath, mainly because of all the cool toys I’ll have. We need new carpets fitting at the top of the stairs to replace the mess that the cats have caused scratching away to get in to our room, and of course we can’t get carpet to match the one that’s currently there, no one will notice though surely. We need to re-paper, repaint and re-gloss in other rooms, and all this before I start the job I am most looking forward to and dreading at the same time.


The nursery furniture, all seven glorious boxes of it, which has been taking up my dining room for the past week needs assembling. Now, if you’re like me, you will hate it. The instructions never seem to be right (it may be because I don’t actually read them), parts are missing and then worst of all, you are always left with a screw that you can’t seem to put anywhere. All is not lost for me though, I am incredibly lucky enough to have a friend who loves flat packing, for now at least.

All of this though is being organised by my darling other half, who by the way has made an excel spreadsheet detailing who is doing what and on what days. I can’t post it as she will kill me, but it is there none the less, and it will no doubt help. This is also the part that the mothers can’t really get involved with as much, due to not being able to be near paint fumes and such. So this is my bit, or at least it feels like it is. Plus, you have all the family and friends to help at this stage, and boy have they been great so far. You only need to ask and people are willing to come round and paint and help move furniture and help in any way needed. All of my friends and family have been great so far, and I’m hoping it stays that way after the baby is here, we need babysitters after all (hint, hint!).

Seen as this is the last week off for the both of us now until the baby is due, I am really hoping that we can get away for a day or two as well to have some time alone. It will be the last time we are off as a two instead of a three. Now that’s weird to say, a three!!

I’m actually quite looking forward to going back to work and having a break ūüôā


Face Your Fears…


Ah, the joys of parenting. Fun, stress, embarrassment and more importantly for today, fear!

No one tells you that it starts the moment you find out you’re going to be a parent, but it does. As soon as you see the positive symbol (or faintly make it out in my case) on the pregnancy test there are a million different things that go through your head. Am I ready to be a parent? How much is this going to cost me? and am I going to be good at it?

Dads also have the worry of their partner as well. I’m forever thinking about my wife in her pregnant state. I keep telling her to go and have a nap, stop what you’re doing, and worrying about what she is doing is affecting the baby. Of course, I’m being over the top, but it is my first and I want it to go well.¬†

I have of course mainly been thinking that I cant wait til I get to see my little human for the first time and hold him/her. But I have got to wait, either 4 weeks or 16 weeks. Let me explain why.

After our first midwife appointment, my partners blood test results came back. It turns out that she has a blood group which can cause problems. Now this I found incredibly weird. How can the mothers blood work against the babies? Crazy. It also turns out that she already has a high level of antibodies in her system which are potentially dangerous to the baby. If they get any higher, then we are looking at having the baby at 28 weeks. So now, we are waiting and worrying about these antibodies, and she is being tested every 2 weeks to see if they have risen.

It really is amazing though what the health care service can do. Did you know, that in Bristol, UK, they can determine what blood group the baby is by extracting the babies DNA from the mothers blood. Unbelievable!! 

You also have the fear of, will the baby be healthy? will the baby have any abnormalities? 

Deep down, we all have these fears, and it’s OK to have them. You shouldn’t have to feel bad just because you think like this. In fact, we should be talking over these fears with our partners. They will be thinking the exact same thing and by talking them over with each other, you will help to subside them.

Us dads also feel like we shouldn’t be asking questions or talking to other dads. We should be the strong ones, the people that our partners can rely on when needed. How can we be if we haven’t done it ourselves? Which when you think about it, it is ridiculous. There’s no such thing as a stupid question, ask as many as you need to, and talk to each other.

These 9 months should be filled with memories and happy moments, and I guarantee they will be. Enjoy them, don’t sit there worrying about things that might never happen, if you do get news that isn’t to your liking, then relax in the knowledge of the health care service will do everything it can to help.¬†

Of course, I’m saying all this and writing it down, I know I should be doing this, but I’m not going to stop having these thoughts. What I am going to do though, is talk through them and then enjoy the last few weeks of my life without a child. Go places that we want to and see things that we haven’t seen yet.¬†

After all, I’m not going to be able to afford to to do this later, am I?

It’s alive….

He's waving!!

He’s waving!!

Well, a lot has happened since I last posted anything, so here goes.

Once you have finally accepted the fact that your partner is pregnant, that’s pretty much it for us fathers. We don’t have to deal with the morning sickness (which should actually be called all day sickness). We don’t get cravings, or get ridiculously hot, or have the mood swings and everything else that comes with carrying a baby. So it still doesn’t feel real until you get to the 12 week scan and then things change.

With this being my first child I didn’t expect to see what I did. I thought that I¬†would just see a little bean shaped object sitting there. How wrong was I! Not only was I able to see two arms and two legs, but I could see this tiny human being doing somersaults and it even waved at us, just in time to have his photo taken. It was at this point did it truly hit me, that I had created another person, it was no longer an “it”, he was a person. So we have started to call him a “him”, he even has a name, Alan. Don’t ask, its a long story, and it is not staying, even if we do have a boy.

From this point on, we then went in to buying mode, or my wife did at least. We still have 17 weeks left, and there is approximately 1000 nappies upstairs of various sizes, as they were on offer. We have the furniture, the monitor, toys and a few clothes that people have bought us. What is due to be our nursery is full, like a bombs gone off, and he isn’t even here yet. We spent weeks¬†researching¬†the pram, and finally settled on one and bought it. And now, every time I see someone pushing a pram, I compare ours to it, I fully have pram envy. I’m loving every second of it.

Then comes the¬†moment you have been waiting for, your partner feels the baby kick! You rush across and put your hand on the bump, and nothing… the fathers can’t feel it for another few weeks. And it sucks. You then have weeks of jealousy and being envious, because she can feel it, and she smiles like a Cheshire cat, and you spend 2 hours lying next to her with your hand on her belly. But when it does happen, it truly is magical. You feel the little kick against the palm of your hand and your smile goes from ear to ear. The tiny person that’s growing inside your partner can now be felt by the people outside, and it rocks!!

Throughout all this though, you have to go through numerous tests during pregnancy, or at least your partner does. Which by the way, if they don’t like their blood being taken, enjoy that. I had to hold my wife’s hair back on two separate occasions whilst she was sick in the doctors. Best get used to sick I suppose. Now if you don’t have any complications, then you are very lucky, it seems that everyone I have spoken to has had some complication or another. We are no different, my wife’s blood is a rare blood group, and she also has a high level of antibodies in her system, which can be harmful if they reach a certain level. So not also do you have the feeling of pure happiness throughout these 40 weeks, you also have a lot of worries that everything is going to be OK. However, I can safely say, that the NHS are brilliant when it comes to this type of thing, at least in our area, and they have put our minds at rest perfectly.

The next 20 weeks cant come quick enough, whilst also take as long as they want so we can enjoy the last few months of freedom. The emotions that you go through during pregnancy as a dad is no where near as stressful as the women,¬†and I wouldn’t trade it in for anything at all.

Question is…. Boy or Girl?